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Learning How to “Let Go”
In his book, Full Living Catastrophe: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D. provides a metaphor to describe the challenges many of us face with the act of “letting go” of thoughts and feelings that cause us pain and suffering in our lives. He explains:
“They say that in India there is a particularly clever way of catching monkeys. As the story goes, hunters will cut a hole in a coconut that is just big enough for a monkey to put its hand through. Then they will drill two smaller holes in the other end, pass a wire through, and secure the coconut to the base of a tree. Then they put a banana inside the coconut and hide. The monkey comes down, puts his hand in and takes hold of the banana. The hole is crafted so that the open hand can go in but the fist cannot get out. All the monkey has to do to be free is to let go of the banana. But it seems most monkeys don’t let go.”
Similar to the monkey’s experience, it can sometimes be difficult for us to let go of certain life experiences or encounters. More specifically, sometimes we may have trouble forgiving ourselves for disappointing a friend or loved one to the point where we find ourselves ruminating or attaching to thoughts that cause us to feel overwhelmed or as though our mind is constantly racing. We may experience sleepless nights, be more forgetful or distracted in our daily activities, feel more “on edge” or even resort to unhealthy vices as a means to gain better control over our, what feels like, lack of mental and emotional clarity.
Fortunately, mindfulness meditation is a healthy and effective technique that can be utilized to help you detach from or let go of your distracting thoughts and feelings. It is a skill that requires one to be in the present moment, to be consciously aware of one’s surroundings, and to be attentive to how the mind and body are responding.
Keep in mind that the act of being mindful doesn’t necessarily come with a set of instructions. Rather, when patience and openness to growth is present, transformation is more likely to occur. So, if you’re feeling compelled to begin practicing mindfulness meditation, try considering some simple, yet effective strategies listed below.
Mindfulness meditation is a great skill that can be strengthened over time. With practice, it can become a lifelong source of support and guidance.
Kabat-Zinn, J. (1990). Full living catastrophe: Using the wisdom of your body and mind to face stress, pain, and illness. New York, NY: Bantam Dell.