It is normal for families to experience higher levels of conflict as adolescents strive for more independence and individuation. 

All families experience conflict from time to time, and this tends to become more pronounced during the adolescent years. It is common for adolescents to argue with parents about freedom, responsibilities, and forms of identity expression. Parents need to understand that the conflict that arises during this developmental stage is a normal and necessary process, but it can really take an emotional toll on the entire family.

There are a number of different causes of family conflict during adolescence, such as sibling rivalry, differences in values/opinions, family changes, and adolescent mood changes. Ongoing, unresolved family conflict can lead to physical aggression, adolescent isolation and withdrawal, and feelings of depression or anxiety. Because adolescents (and oftentimes parents as well) lack adequate skills to resolve conflict effectively, it can be very helpful for families to seek guidance and support from an experienced therapist. 

At Metta Psychology Group, our psychologists carefully “join” with your family by demonstrating respect and acceptance of each family member, which establishes the trust and connection necessary to promote lasting family change. Our experienced psychologists at Metta Psychology Group work collaboratively with members of your family to improve communication and explore difficult feelings in a safe, supportive environment.

Counselors will help you identify barriers to listening, as well specific strategies such as family meetings and collaborative problem solving. Therapy empowers family members to build a better understanding of each other’s perspectives and emotional needs. Our counselors are flexible in designing a plan that best meets the needs of each family, which at times involves meeting with individual family members, parents only, or all family members together, to effectively resolve problems and meet each family’s unique goals.

In working with a counselor, you and your family will gain the tools to navigate adolescence, rebuild trust, practice forgiveness, resolve conflict, and create a more harmonious home.